The Power of Foreplay

by Vivianne Lacrampette

The importance of foreplay has been talked about often in almost every sex guide on the planet. And yet, here we take a go at the subject again! Are we crazy? Quite! Nevertheless, the kind of information available in the free domain didn't really impress us, so we decided to do a small write up for our dear readers!

In this two part article we will tell you some ways to make your woman go crazy... and maybe even have an orgasm before you touch her secret places! Are we kidding? Not quite! But before all that it is important to mention that the foreplay doesn't start neither by kissing the lips nor by kissing the necks. It starts way before... at the moment your woman is comfortable with you, when you have gotten to know her some and are about to make a move. During our time we have seen some disasters, like a man who is talking about the city drainage and then decides to kiss the woman! Jeez! Get a life mate! But without further ado, lets take a look at the first ten steps that are important to foreplay!

Before Foreplay

• Take a bath and smell good. Nothing is worse than smelling sweat on a man, no matter how sexy he is.

• Groom yourself for the occasion. Dress nicely, look elegant and confident.

• Get to know your woman a bit. At least know the basics of what she likes and especially what she doesn't.

• Talk about exciting things from the start. Not about weather, not about how bad you feel; rather about things that make you feel good and make her feel good. Make her laugh some.

• Always keep a steady eye contact, and every now and then look at her most gorgeous features and sigh to yourself, "Oh How Gorgeous Are Thee!"

And now lets get down to business! Onto The Ten Ways to Excite Your Woman!

1. Foreplay starts with words. Talk about something exciting, that will turn her blood hot. Now that doesn't mean getting her angry! Some nice topics are romantic spots, sea shore, mountains and flowers. But you can choose any topic and make it hot! Tell her about something in your life that really excited you, or if you know her well enough, tell her an anecdote that will please her. If you don't have one, make one! For instance something like "The other day, I was watching this show on discovery about the disney rides. And there was this one ride that they were talking about, you know the roller coaster. It was really amazing. The way it would go up and down, moving along at such a fast pace. Itwas really exciting! Speed and thrills with that wee bit of fear, rolling up instilling you with excitement, and then it would go down, so that you could feel the air brushing against your face..." The bolded words are where you should be laying emphasis.

2. Actions can speak even louder than words! While you are telling her the story touch her lightly and move your hands. Move your hands like a wave when you say Up and down and then bring your hands close to her face when you talk about feel the air brushing against your face. If you think you are comfortable enough, you can even blow air just around her ears! But beware... around her ears, making her hair move, not full in her face!

3. Throughout the conversation, touch her every so gently. Start invading her private space. Now I said private space, not private places! A slight touch on the elbow, remove a peck of dust from her hair, or just hold her hands and massage them with your fingers.

4. Now start getting adventurous. If she is tired propose to massage her neck. Or just pull her towards yourself and give her a hug just because she said something nice. Start invading her private space even more.

5. Now is the time to tell her how gorgeous she is or compliment her on something she is wearing. Before this time, you will just make her defensive. But right now, she will know you are sincere because your eyes have been telling it to her all through the evening! Tell her how you like her deep eyes, and then ask her softly if you can touch her face.

6. Become more cozy with her, touching and caressing her in non sexual places. But don't lean over to kiss her... not just yet. Let her beg for it. For instance just let your finger roll down her back, or caress her shoulders. Even a slight rubbing on the knees can be sexy, if you are gentle and soft enough.

7. Your talk should be getting more erotic now. That doesn't mean telling her about your conquests, but just start using sexy words. If there is something you feel, share it with her. Also, start talking more softly, so that she has to be real close to understand. Start whispering in her ears, making her a partner into your secrets. But not the dirty secrets, not just yet!

8. Now while you are whispering, your mouth close to her ears, allow your lips to touch them. Give her a soft kiss, more like a peck. Then move back, allowing her to move into you. When she does, give her a slightly longer kiss on her ears, and then say something funny or interesting.

9. Start moving your hands all over her body, still leaving out her obvious pleasure points. No touching her breasts for now! But her belly, her back, her neck, her arms, her legs, her chin and her hair are good places.

10. Start moving your kiss downwards from her ear on to her neck, but don't start eating her neck! Just soft and tender kisses. So soft that she has to lean into you to feel them! And now be patient for the next part of this article!

These are of course suggestion, to give you a basic idea. There are loads of things that you can do following these basic principles

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Keeping Sex Fresh and Exciting

Long-term relationships offer all kinds of benefits, but they can also present challenges when it comes to maintaining romance, passion, and fire. Here's your roadmap to keep things exciting.

Let’s get real: It can be tough to keep things fresh when you’re going to bed with the same person night after night. Long-term relationships offer all kinds of benefits, but they can also present challenges when it comes to maintaining romance, passion, and fire. So be honest about the situation with yourself and with your partner. Then begin to take steps to make things more exciting.

Keeping physical intimacy fresh is an ongoing process that each of you needs to actively prioritize. To get you started, we’ve gathered some general principles and suggestions that can have an immediate impact on your love life.

Talk about what you want.

This may be the sex advice that’s most often offered. And it’s also the best. But it’s not always that easy. If it scares you a little to think of being really forthcoming about what you want, you’re not alone. Many people worry that their sexual desires will be perceived as odd, selfish, or simply beyond their partners’ comfort zones. But even though it’s sometimes uncomfortable to talk about what you really want or find most exciting in bed—even with the person you feel closest to—that’s the quickest and most effective way of making sure that both of you feel fulfilled and satisfied.

One way to do this in a way that feels safer for both of you is to play the “What’s something crazy you once thought about?” game. By doing it this way, neither of you has to commit to following through on the idea, and it’s safe because it’s (allegedly) something that merely crossed your mind in the past. But you might find that you each have some interesting ideas that would lead to some fun and stimulating situations. And even if you don’t actually act on these different possibilities, just talking about them will most likely raise the temperature in the room—and in the relationship.

Set the mood in advance.
Don’t wait until you’re both undressing after a long day to begin to think about being intimate together. Instead, begin the foreplay in the morning—either literally or figuratively. If you have the time and inclination, have a more physically stimulating breakfast. But even if you don’t set the mood physically, there are plenty of ways to engage in metaphorical foreplay—such as communicating how much you’re looking forward to your rendezvous, or talking about what you’re each expecting to give and receive later that evening.

Then throughout the day, continue to set the mood. Make an erotic phone call to her extension. Send him an email that you know he’ll find tantalizing. Or do something that’s not overtly sexual but that you know will keep preparing both of you for your encounter. Flowers or a gift or a new mix of songs can go a long way toward setting the mood as well. It doesn’t matter exactly what you do; the point is to set the stage throughout the day for romance and intimacy.

Just have fun for fun’s sake.
Some couples put too much pressure on themselves to make sure that the earth moves every time they make love, which can often lead to disappointment. So the next time you’re in bed together, make a concerted effort to relax and just enjoy yourselves. Laugh. Enjoy undressing. Take pleasure in the setup and the buildup, not just the final payoff. Be sensual. In other words, be fully engaged in the whole process, finding pleasure in everything from the beginning to the end.

Another idea is to play games together. They might have to do with acting out roles or living out fantasies, or you could even try an adult version of “Truth or Dare.” If you don’t feel like being too creative, there are plenty of games and books you can buy, or Web sites you can explore, to help you make sure that your sexual relationship is one built not only on emotional intimacy, but on fun and pleasure as well.

Inject some variety.
There’s nothing wrong with consistency or with establishing certain “patterns” in your love life. But when consistency turns into monotony, it can be really difficult to maintain the passion in your relationship. So try injecting some variety into your lovemaking. This might mean experimenting with new positions or locations. Or it might mean taking more time instead of having the obligatory Wednesday-night quickie. Or maybe you switch roles, so that the one who’s usually the initiator and aggressor becomes more passive, and vice versa.

There are plenty of other ways to add variety to your sex life and keep it from becoming dull. Dress up. Surprise each other in the shower. Go on a racy “first date” where you pretend that you’re two very forward people who begin to participate in increasingly daring sex talk as the evening progresses. Whatever you do, try to release your inhibitions. Keep in mind that as long as you both feel respected and comfortable with what you’re doing, then you can relax, enjoy the variety, and let yourselves go.

Be realistic.
Remember that sex isn’t going to be perfect every time. So don’t put too much pressure on yourselves to shake the chandelier or wake the neighbors. And don't compare your sex life to the ones you see in movies or on television. Use the ideas above to keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom, but don’t worry if the passion in the relationship achieves a certain routine and regularity over time. Even an occasional diversion from the usual is all that a couple needs to keep things fresh. If you two are having sex consistently and each enjoying the physical relationship you share, then congratulate yourselves. You’re doing really well.

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Healthy Aging - Sexual Vitality

Because sexuality tends to be a private matter, it's likely that you've heard less about sexual change than any other element of aging. Fortunately, the news is good-for most healthy adults, pleasure and interest don't diminish with age. Most people are sexual throughout their lives, with or without a partner, and some feel greater sexual freedom in their later years. On the other hand, some men and women are content to be sexually inactive.

Around age 50, men and women typically begin to notice changes in their sexual drive, sexual response, or both. Like so many other physical changes that evolve over time, these aren't signs that you are losing your sexuality. Rather, these changes are simply something to adjust to and discuss openly with your partner and/or health professional.

Normal sexual changes in men

As you age beyond your 50s, you may find that:

• Male sex drive is minimally affected by age (although health problems, certain medications, or relationship stress can lower sex drive).
• Erections become less firm and tend to take more time than when you were younger.
• You may be able to delay ejaculation for longer than when you were younger.

Normal sexual changes in women

After menopause, estrogen and androgen levels drop, causing physical changes. You may find that:

• It can take longer to become sexually excited.
• Your skin may be more sensitive and easily irritated when caressed.
• Intercourse may be painful because of thinning vaginal walls (regular sex often helps prevent this from becoming severe). If a water-based lubricant (such as Astroglide or Replens) isn't enough, talk to your health professional about vaginal estrogen cream, which reverses thinning and sensitivity. For more information, see the topic Menopause and Perimenopause.
• You are less interested in sex.

If you have noticed sexual changes that don't seem to be linked to normal aging, talk to your health professional. There are a number of medications that can cause sexual problems, as well as health conditions that can cause sexual problems.

Adjusting to age-related sexual changes

With a little experimentation and patience, you can adjust to sexual changes and satisfy your sexual and intimacy needs. If you think your sexual interest might be affected by a medication or health problem, work with your health professional to correct or treat it. Talk with your partner about any misgivings you might have so you can handle them together.

With your partner, take your time to set a relaxed mood and engage in foreplay. Use a lubricant if vaginal dryness or irritation is a barrier to enjoying sex. If you drink alcohol, remember that a small amount may relax you and increase your responsiveness, but too much alcohol is likely to work against you.

Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are a risk no matter what age you are. Unless you and your partner have recently been tested or you are 100% sure that you both have been monogamous for many years without infection, make sure that you practice safe sex to prevent STDs.

WebMD Medical Reference from Healthwise

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