what men think is hot

When Is Not-So-Sexy... Oh-So-Sexy?

By Jen Matlack
Check out the surprising truths about what men think is hot when they're
smitten.

When do you feel like your sexiest self? When you're all dolled up, rocking
your little black dress and heels and the perfect lipstick? When you've kicked
butt at work? When you slip into something silky and slinky? We know how good
those all feel, but here's the truth: Getting primped and perfumed — or even
showing a little leg — has nothing to do with what makes your guy really
want you. Yes, at first a man may be drawn in by come-hither cues — a flash of
lace, a glimpse of cleavage. But once his heart is yours for keeps, he has a
totally different idea of what makes you alluring.

"When a man is in love, what he finds really attractive is the feeling
that he's seeing you for who you truly are," explains REDBOOK Love Network
expert Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married
Women. "To a guy, the makeup, the sexy outfit, it's all a mask. He
wants the woman behind the mask. Openness, vulnerability, an air of contentment
— those things are what really turns him on."

We asked seven women to tell us when they feel most desirable — then got the
scoop from each of their guys on what makes him hot for her. Here, the
sweet, sexy, and surprising answers:

Stilettos and cleavage...or natural beauty?

Angela Betancourt, 30

Rich Betancourt, 38

Married eight months

ANGELA: The irony is that whenever I feel my hottest — say, when I
wear a low-cut blouse and fabulous black stilettos — Rich rarely finds me sexy!
I like to wear super-shiny lip gloss, but Rich thinks it's more sticky than
kissable; and if I stare longingly into his eyes he just thinks I'm being
cheesy. I also feel attractive anytime I'm in candlelight — in fact, I always
light candles in the bedroom. I'm sure Rich wonders why I'm so candle
obsessed.

RICH: I find Angela the most irresistible when she's zoned out on the
couch in front of the TV after a long day at work. She's not wearing any makeup
or jewelry. Everything is stripped away, and she's just totally relaxed. I'll
look over at her beautiful face and think, Wow, this is a great shot. I have
to take a picture. Her natural beauty turns me on much more than when she's
all dolled up.

Sharing private time...or working the room?

Charisse Lombardo-Moore, 38

Salvatore Moore, 35

Married nine years

CHARISSE: I feel sexiest when my husband and I are strongly
connected. We're always close and love each other, but let's face it, after
being together for 15 years, those emotions sometimes get lost in the everyday.
But when we reconnect, it's powerful. For example, we went to Puerto Rico this
year to celebrate my birthday. Every day we went to the beach, where we read
and talked and took long walks. It was so calming and intimate. Later in the
week, on the actual day of my birthday, Sal took me shopping for clothes. By
this time, I felt so great about our marriage — and so incredibly desirable. To
show him how I was feeling, I began modeling sexy bathing suits for him,
something I've never done before. You could feel the sexual tension in the
air!

SALVATORE: I find Charisse most attractive when we are out with a
group of friends and she is sharing a story about a recent experience. She
tells the story with such conviction and passion. Her smile is warm and
generous, and everyone around us is always drawn to her and engrossed by what
she's saying. I feel proud and always have an urge to get close to her. Her
presence brightens any room in a way I can't fully describe. I would bet that
any of the women we spend time with are envious and would give almost anything
to walk just one mile in her shoes.

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